Random Thought Thread

[Zoaelite]

Well I certainly have learned some valuable information about some members with the last few pages of this thread.

I will hold my tongue on most of it, but Brad... You sir just gained a boat load of respect in my eyes!

[kien]

Originally Posted by jorjef

To each his own

Indeed. I don't think that there is a right or wrong answer. We can all agree that there are times when children need to be disciplined. However, how we go about doing this is up to us and will vary from parent to parent. The variability is also in the children. Every single child is different. They do not all learn the same, therefore they can not all be disciplined the same way. It's just one of the many challenges of parenting :-)

[Aquattro]

Originally Posted by Zoaelite

I will hold my tongue on most of it, but Brad... You sir just gained a boat load of respect in my eyes!

So on a scale of 1 to 10, I'm now a 1? Cool!!

It's a hot topic, and yes, to each their own, but there are certain constants, at least in my eyes, that need to be followed. I've done probably every wrong thing as a parent that can be done, and I was also that f**head kid that got into all the trouble, hell, I even got an assault charge in prison!
But I've learned over my 25 years of parenting, and I'm now on kid number 4, and hope I get it right this time. All my kids are now (mostly) well adjusted, but getting there was a lot rougher than it needed to be. It's a case of I wish I knew then what I know now. Eveyone here with an opinion, regardless of what it is, will likely have a different opinion 20 years from now

[kien]

Originally Posted by Aquattro

Eveyone here with an opinion, regardless of what it is, will likely have a different opinion 20 years from now

This is a very good point. Although my dad's "methods" seemed to work on me, he does not treat my son the same way. It is quite interesting to see him with my son as he treats him (my son) much more delicately. He lets my son get away with things that he would NEVER let me get away with, like not finishing my dinner. I've come to conclude that he is kind of were you are. Deep down he wishes that he had raised me a bit differently and he's sort of getting that chance with his grandson. Mind you, 20 years ago things were a lot different for us.

[jorjef]

I'm just going to end with saying that I do give my boys a lot of love and they know I'm in their corner.

Geezzz when I went to jail.. I behaved!!!

[lastlight]

People mellow with age too. They either learned a few things or are more tired lol.

[Leah]

Heck...a good caning should work.

[lastlight]

As a three time recipient of a good belting I can assure you it did not help the situation =)

[cuz]

Maybe I missed it looking back but what did the kid do that started all this?

[Parker]

Raised by a single mother for the better part of my vulnerable years who never once laid a hand on me or my sisters. We were raised with follow through and consequences, If she handed out a punishment of grounding at 7:00 pm for three days we didn't get off grounding until 7:00 pm three days later and not one second early. We had chores as kids, cleaning your room every Saturday morning before T.V. or heading out to play etc. If we skipped it Mom went in a cleaned everything into garbage bags and believe me when she cleaned she cleaned. It only happened to one of my younger sisters once and the rest of us learned our lesson. She always followed through, even if that meant she had to in a way be punished herself.

I watch my sister raising my nieces with zero follow through, she takes the cell phones away for a week and a not even a day goes by and they have them back, what does that teach? I also see the parents divided where it comes discipline and rules, to me that just seems like a recipe for failure.