Legal Help...PLEASE!!!

[sphelps]

Sorry but I know my gf wouldn't mind if I went partying for a few days because old friends came into town. She might not be too thrilled inside but wouldn't stop me from going or kick me out as a result, provided I didn't do anything really bad . You can't base a relationship on hoping or trying to change the other person, that's not how it works so IMO she was in the wrong and you don't owe her anything. By the sounds of things she sounds fairly manipulative, immature and only happy if she gets her way. She obviously wasn't ready for a real relationship and perhaps you weren't either so lets all move on

[my2rotties]

True enough, but each any every person is different. I don't know the whole take on the relationship BUT I gave him the worst case scenario. I know well enough that you have no right to try to change someone else. I have been with my husband long enough to know it is easier to change yourself to accept certain things in your mate, rather then fight them to be what you want. However, there is also meeting in the middle, and a whole entire week of partying all hours of the night and coming home drunk, is not meeting in the middle either. There has to be some consideration towards someone else's feelings in the end. I am not condoning what she did, but I am also not going to take the poster's side since I feel he really has no regard for her feelings at all. Using the excuse that he has no aspirations in life, shows he is not taking any responsibility. I bet he did not call her to say he would be out all night or tell her anything at all.

Originally Posted by sphelps

Sorry but I know my gf wouldn't mind if I went partying for a few days because old friends came into town. She might not be too thrilled inside but wouldn't stop me from going or kick me out as a result, provided I didn't do anything really bad . You can't base a relationship on hoping or trying to change the other person, that's not how it works so IMO she was in the wrong and you don't owe her anything. By the sounds of things she sounds fairly manipulative, immature and only happy if she gets her way. She obviously wasn't ready for a real relationship and perhaps you weren't either so lets all move on

[michika]

Originally Posted by KennyKen

Do you want to know what i did?
I am the younger person in the relationship and am in quote "party mode", and have no real aspirations in life.
So she wanted me to change, this was at the beginning of stampede, when 2 of my best friends had arrived into town from Toronto and i had stumbled home at 5 am.....
So 5 days later i was still in "party mode" as it was the final weekend of the pede when i cam home around 2 am friday to a bag packed and a note saying "Here is bag, leave"

And believe me im not leaving anything out of "bad" stuff i have done....
She has been a real bull on this.

Thats it? Seriously? Yeah, like others have mentioned, cut and run! Take your puppy and run far far far away! If she reacted like this over friends in town for the Stampede, what else will she react over, and how far would it go in the future? I party all the time, frequently until dawn the following day. Its never been an issue. Then again relationships are unique. Although I still stand by my recommendation, based on the provided information, that you just chalk it up to a bad experience and move on.

Just go straight to the cops for an escort to your own property to get your stuff. Do it during the day like mentioned to avoid the interactions that might come in the evening.

Any luck on a new place?

[my2rotties]

Just like you said, relationships are unique. I don't know how much older the ex girlfriend is in this case, and she may have bitten off more then she could chew. I agree he should get out of the relationship, since it is clearly not what both people are looking for out of it. Sometimes we learn about the significant other through the mistakes we make...

So long as he cares for his dog properly while he is out partying, then I don't think it is such a bad thing. Like I mentioned before, the dog has nobody else but him for attention.

Originally Posted by michika

Thats it? Seriously? Yeah, like others have mentioned, cut and run! Take your puppy and run far far far away! If she reacted like this over friends in town for the Stampede, what else will she react over, and how far would it go in the future? I party all the time, frequently until dawn the following day. Its never been an issue. Then again relationships are unique. Although I still stand by my recommendation, based on the provided information, that you just chalk it up to a bad experience and move on.

Just go straight to the cops for an escort to your own property to get your stuff. Do it during the day like mentioned to avoid the interactions that might come in the evening.

Any luck on a new place?

[KennyKen]

Well here is the deal now. Im borrowing a truck and getting all my stuff out tomorrow evening....granted she lets me in.
I am 24 and she is 27, and the invite to go out with me is ALWAYS there, she is just really introverted opposed to myself, being extremely extroverted.

As for reconciliation, that appears to be out of the question. If can she just flip a switch like a reset button and complely forget about our history together, its not worth trying to start over again.

The next step is uncertain. Im staying at friends right now that has 2 dogs (one of them being a bulldog) and there is always someone home, when i am not. But as for a long term stay, this is not. SO for the time being this is a good spot for me.

Im looking for a place with another friend, but im not gonna wait to long on that either. If i have not found a place by the middle August, im moving back to Toronto to live with my brother.

By the way, anyone have any connections with uhaul or a moving company. I enquired about renting the smallest cube truck from uhaul for the trip and the quote was $2900...but the guy liked me so much he said he would drop it too 2800$, LOL
I dont have much to move at all, 6 or 7 boxes, a tv and a 90g tank and stand (im keeping my equipment if i do move there as everything is over priced out there)