Car lighting help - Adding aftermarket LED Day time running lights

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Yeah clearly this is a "pay somebody else to do it" job... ughh. I can pay somebody with coral bahahaha. I do medical or animals stuff. I don't speak car.
I knew the HID's would do the flicker thing while on DRL mode before I bought them. I knew I would have to keep them on Headlight all the time, or find a way to turn DRL mode off...
I just want to avoid having HID's on at all during the day, because I honestly don't need them. However at night they are beyond useful with the amount of suicidal deer out here. And I don't want to go with nothing for lighting during the day, because honestly... the old folks around here cant see a store window in front of their car while parked, I cant imagine they'd have a very easy time seeing a black car with no lights coming at them.


So I went out and checked out the fuses annnnnnd absolutely nothing happens. The large blocks in the fuse block (im assuming the relays?) the one for DRL isn't even there so cant pull that to see what happens. Pulled the DRL fuse and nothing happened. Pulled the Headlight fuses one at a time and all they do is turn my headlights and DRL's off so nothing comes on at all.
So I am currently at a loss for how to prevent my current headlights/DRLs from doing anything when my vehicle is switch to DRL only.