Car lighting help - Adding aftermarket LED Day time running lights

[Coasting]

Ahh nothing showed first photos and I cant quite make out the second.
I keep hearing about this ECU and I head theres a pin in it I can bend to disable DRL's, but all those places I read about it said its supposed to be in the fuse box. And well it's not.
Fuse 13 is the one I've pulled for DRL and it did nothing.
I also pulled every single other fuse and relay related to headlights and nothing but turning ALL my lights off lol.