[danny zubot]

Welcome to Canreef!

I'm not the resident anemone expert but Magnifica is a very difficult breed to care for even by advanced aquarists. Generally the experts will tell newbies to wait at least 6 months to a year before diving into anemone keeping. THe symptoms your anemone exhibits are signs of stress, it should want to stay inflated. If it needs to "rest" (deflated) then it is expending energy, perhaps adjusting to the move or searching for its niche. Quite often they won't eat when stressed which expains why the food won't stick, don't force it.

You should be able to tell if the anemone is dead or close to it is it begins to fall apart, either in chunks or almost a gelatinous way. Sometimes clownfish will tear and rip at it, almost like they're attempting to put it out of it's mysery.

Is the female breathing heavy? Does she have spots on her?

Good luck!