Thanks guys =)
The tank is officially running!
The speedwave needed to be on speed 3 of 6 to overcome the head losses. I've got it on speed 4 currently. Definitely not a silent pump and the sump in a cavity in the wall is amplifying it but the tank upstairs is literally dead silent and I can't hear the pump in my office on the other side of the basement so it's all win.
Adjusting the herbie was actually easy and I never even needed to look at the tank upstairs. Just watch the bubbles from the primary pipe it tells you all you need to know. What I wasn't ready for tho were the massive burps when that pipe first started hitting its siphon stride! sent water over the edge of the sump 3 times before i got it dialed close enough to stop it. i'll have to simulate a power failure and restart to see if it does that with a properly tuned gate valve
My temporary locline.
My temporary filter socks aka pvc shavings colllectors.