Best thing that happened to our boy at 15, was getting a job at MacDonald's. Changed his direction and life completely. He met new friends, kept busy, did well at school (ended up getting a scholorship), and now has a great career with a couple kids of his own.
Unfortunately, despite the best efforts of parents, boys (and girls too) are most vulnerable at that age. Hormones and who your friends are tend to rule. Luckily, the vast majority survive just fine, and turn out well. I think the trick is to keep good communication (listening and trust) with your kid, and try to channel their energy into positive activities.
I strongly believe (I learned this in business, too) that positive reinforcement (look for things that he is successful at) is more effective than strict discipline. The latter might work for a while, but to be really successful (and have fun) in life, you have to find your own way, and learn to make good decisions, which includes seeking the input of others.
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