well if you haven't damaged your relay, the 9v will work.  
 
follow the diagram in the link I put up but the 9V supply in series with the switches on the control. Your extension cord on the output, just imagine the the relays output as a switch on one wire (hot, on a polarized plug, the wire that connects to the narrow blade) of the extension cord. 
		
	
		
		
		
		
			
		
		
		
		
	
		
		
	
	
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